别人的嘴巴, 自己的路

從前有一個故事是這樣說的：有一群青蛙在比賽誰能爬上最高的鐵塔，比賽開始了，一大群的青蛙看著那高大的鐵塔議論紛紛：「這太難了！我們絕對爬不到塔頂的……」、「塔太高了！我們不可能成功……！」聽到這裡，有些青蛙便放棄了。

看著那些仍然繼續爬的青蛙，大家又繼續說：「這太難了！沒有誰能爬上塔頂的……」就這樣你一言我一語，越來越多的青蛙退出了比賽。但有一隻卻越爬越高，最後當其他的青蛙都無法再前進的時候，牠卻成為唯一到達頂點的選手。其他的青蛙都想知道，牠是怎麼做到的？於是便跑上前去詢問，才發現原來牠是個聾子！

朋友，你知道這個故事告訴你什麼嗎？是的，嘴巴是別人的，但人生卻是自己的！雖然我們不必做個真正的聾子，但卻要永遠充滿希望、樂觀和積極，不要只聽那些消極、悲觀的話，因為他們只會潑別人的冷水，澆熄你的毅力。要將充滿力量的話，時時記在心裡，因為這將影響你往後的一生。

嘴巴長在別人嘴上，但自己卻要走屬於自己的道路。 在這個現實的社會裡，即便是遭受旁人無情的冷落、批評、否定，甚至排擠，也不能表示你就必須哀聲歎氣、自怨自悲，唯一能否定你的人，只有你自己！

人生如火箭, Life's Like A Rocket

實際上﹐火箭只有3% 的時間是在完全朝向月球的軌道上﹐沒有絲毫偏移﹐在其余的97% 的時間裡則一直都在修正﹐才能最終飛底月球。

Life is full of mistakes, and corrections; nothing is absolute, even if it is being pre-planned. only 3% are pre-determined, another 97% is planned but required constantly monitoring and correction in order to achieve objectives...

You Know Your Lesson!

Often we know exactly what they (lessons) are, and we are hoping they will go away!

用心過好每一天．相信每天都是美好的一天

記住 anger ( 發怒 ) 與 danger ( 危險) 只差一個字
別看少這一個字
它會影響我們這份職業、甚至人際關係
正所謂「禍從口出…」
專家講:
「人，面對外人時，
總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和，
但面對自己最親近的家人，
卻往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭，
甚至出言相傷。」
正如你永遠只對你最愛、最親的人生氣
你會對住你上司、老板生氣嗎 ?
如果形容人類是一種
「出門高E.Q ，回家低E.Q 」的動物，
我想一點兒也不誇張，
多拿出一點耐心與包容給家人吧！
否則您自己也不會快樂，不是嗎？


曾在報上看過
英文中的stressed （壓力），與 desserts （甜點）兩字，
有很微妙的相關。是什麼相關呢？
仔細一瞧，好像沒什麼關係嘛！
可是，再看一下，咦，
stressed 這個字從後面倒過來拼寫，不就是 desserts 嗎？
所以，「Stressed is just desserts if you can reverse. 」
（壓力就是甜點，只要你能逆向觀看。）
哈，這真是有趣的妙論呀！
人生之中，有許多「壓力、挫折」，
但只要轉個念、換個角度看，
它也就是我們生命中的「甜點」呀！
此外，也有人說：
「人生就像一碗飯，一半是甜的，一半是苦的，
你不知道會先吃到哪一邊，但終究必須把飯吃完。」
是呀，生命有甜、有苦、有酸、也有辣；
但都必須去經歷它、走過它呀！
有一個小學老師在偏遠的鄉里教書，
這天，他來到自己班上的教室，
問班上的小朋友：「你們大家有沒有討厭的人啊」
小朋友們想了想，有的未作聲，有的則猛力地點點頭。
老師接著便發給每人一個袋子，說：
「我們來玩一個遊戲。現在大家想想看，過去這一 週，
曾有那些人得罪過你他到底做了怎麼樣可惡的事想到後，
就利用放學時間到河邊去找一塊石頭，
把他的名字給用小紙條貼在石頭上如果他實在很過份，
你就找一塊大一點的石頭，如果他的錯是小錯，
你就找一塊小一點的石頭。
每天把戰利品用袋子裝到學校來給老師看哦！」
學生們感到非常有趣且新鮮，
放學後，每個人都搶著到河邊去找石頭。
第二天一早，
大家都把裝著從河邊撿來的鵝卵石的袋子帶到學校來，
興高采烈地討論著。
一天過去了，兩天過去了，三天過去了….. ，
有的人的袋子越裝越大，幾乎成了負擔。
終於，
有人提出了抗議「老師，好累喔」老師笑了笑沒說話，
立刻又有人接著喊：
「對啊每天背著這些石頭來上課， 好累喔 」
這時，老師終於開口了，
她笑著說：「那就放下這些代表著別人過犯的石頭吧」
孩子們有些訝異，
老師又接著講：
「學習寬恕別人的過犯 ，
不要把它當寶一樣的記在心上，扛在肩上，
時間久了，任誰也受不了…」
這個星期，這班的同學上到了人生中極寶貴的一課。
袋裡裝入越多、越大的「石頭」，
心中存留越多、越深的仇恨，
所造成的負擔就越重。
假如你有寫上我名字的石頭
你應當知道該怎樣做了吧！
我很喜歡一句名諺：
「寬恕人的過失，便是自己的榮耀。」
懂得「放下」，何等自在。
請不吝分享，或許今天正有人需要它！
相愛容易相處難，婚姻與戀愛最大的不同，
就是「戀愛看的是對方的優點」，
而「婚姻卻是要包容對方的缺點」。
Made with ... 緣份是找到包容你的人
用心過好每一天．相信每天都是美好的一天 ；
好運會降臨在樂觀開朗的人身上!

Start Where You Stand

Start where you stand and never mind the past,

The past won't help you in beginning new,

If you have left it all behind at last

Why, that's enough, you're done with it, you're through;

This is another chapter in the book,

This is another race that you have planned,

Don't give the vanished days a backward look,

Start where you stand.

The world won't care about your old defeats

If you can start anew and win success;

The future is your time, and time is fleetA

nd there is much of work and strain and stress;

Forget the buried woes and dead despairs,

Here is a brand-new trial right at hand,

The future is for him who does and dares,

Start where you stand.

Old failures will not halt, old triumphs aid,

To-day's the thing, to-morrow soon will be;

Get in the fight and face it unafraid,

And leave the past to ancient history,

What has been, has been;

yesterday is deadAnd by it you are neither blessed nor banned;

Take courage, man, be brave and drive ahead,

Start where you stand.

Secrets of Life

If you want to get somewhere, you have to know where you want to go and how to get there. Then never, never, never give up.

The secret of life isn't what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you.

Help other people to cope with their problems and your own will be easier to cope with.

Never use the word impossible seriously again. Toss it into the verbal wastebasket.

Self-trust is the first secret of success. So believe in and trust yourself.

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them.

You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have.

Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself.

In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible.

How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself - so always think positively.

Go at life with abandon; give it all you've got.

And life will give all it has to you.

Keep 'Em Close

One day a mother died.

And on that clear, cold morning,

in the warmth of her bedroom,

the daughter was struck with

the pain of learning that sometimes

there isn't any more.

No more hugs, no more lucky moments to celebrate together,

no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute."
Sometimes, what we care about the most goes away,

never to return before we can say good-bye, say "I Love You."

So while we have it … it's best we love it .

And care for it and fix it when it's broken

and take good care of it when it's sick.

This is true for marriage … and friendships!

And children with bad report cards;

and dogs with bad hips;

and aging parents and grandparents.

We keep them because they are worth it,

because we cherish them!

Some things we keep -

like a best friend who moved away

or a classmate we grew up with.

There are just some things that

make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, and so are the people we know.

And so, keep them close!

STRUGGLE... Do you want to be the flying butterfly?

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared;
he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole.
Then it seemed to stop making any progress.
It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.
Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon.
The butterfly then emerged easily.
But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.
The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.
Neither happened!
In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.
It never was able to fly.
What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life.
If nature allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
We would not be as strong as what we could have been.
And we could never fly...

Laws Of Success

Do you want something ? -- Will you pay the price?

The great sin -- Gossip.

The great crippler -- Fear.

The greatest mistake -- Giving up.

The most satisfying experience -- Doing your duty first.

The best action -- Keep the mind clear and judgement good.

The greatest blessing -- Good health.

The biggest fool - The man who lies to himself.

The great gamble -- Substituting hope for facts.

The most certain thing in life -- Change.

The greatest joy -- Being needed.

The cleverest man -- The one who does what he thinks is right.

The most potent force -- Positive thinking.

The greatest opportunity -- The next one.

The greatest thought -- God.

The greatest victory -- Victory over self.

The best play -- Successful work.

The greatest handicap -- Egotism.

The most expensive indulgence -- Hate.

The most dangerous man -- The liar.

The most ridiculous trait -- False pride.

The greatest loss -- Loss of self confidence.

The greatest need -- Common sense.

By Jack Yianitsas

Promiscouos Society

Of course, nobody doubts the intention pf school authorities and social workers in engaging pupils at their own level.

But pamphlets with graphic details about gonorrhea, hot tips on how to use a condom and a strip cartoon may be bordering on smut rather than sex education.

Mind you, they also offer advice on where to get free contraceptives and HIV tests as well as treatment without their parents’ knowledge, how to get the morning-after pills and where to go for an abortion.

The sheer openness of these so-called sex lessons may give the impression that it’s perfectly normal to sleep around, catch VD and get pregnant.

Now, it’s not a question of being old fashioned. But if sex lessons must be given, they should be taught in serious, respectable medical terms, not in porn-like language.

No doubt, the schools’ idea of handing out free condoms to pupils may be one way of teaching them to avoid unwanted pregnancies.

Yet, at the same time, it can indirectly encourage the curious to try out sex, which can lead them to unprotected sexual activities.

And that’s exactly what everyone – parents, teachers and social workers – all want to avoid, the subtle push towards a promiscuous society. At the end of the day, the emphasis should still be on good old moral values and the need to respect every individual’s rights, not treat them as sex objects.

Teenage Pregnancy

But when a report pinned Britain’s highest teenage pregnancy rate in Europe to what it claimed was “too little sex education”, it triggered a howl of protests.

It is amazing, but can anyone honestly believe that teenagers are getting pregnant and contracting venereal diseases because they don’t know the causes or preventive methods?

Apparently, a group of so-called do-gooders believe so. And they are pressing for compulsory sex and relationship lessons throughout every pupil’s time at school.

According to local media reports, the UK Youth Parliament claimed that half the young people here have not been taught about teenage pregnancy and wouldn’t know where to find their local sexual health clinic.

These figures, the group contended, were from its survey of over 20 000 teenagers and might well explain the high rates of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases in the country.

Admittedly, many youngsters may be unaware of the location of their local sexual health clinics. But that doesn’t mean they have no inkling at all about sex.

In fact, time and again, they have been taught about the subject, complete with step-by-step demonstrations and detailed leaflets, whether their families like it or not.

For some, it can be boring and embarrassing enough to have to put up with being lectured about sex all day at school.
And very often, it is the same old stuff – gonorrhea, syphilis, condoms and HIV – with lots of giggling and red faces all round.

Stick To Good Old Moral Values

Contrary to popular belief, sex is still a taboo subject in conservative Asian societies. Unlike in the West, in Asia the issue is often left to youngsters to read about and discover on their own as they grow up.

More often than not, teaching children about the birds and the bees can be an exasperating experience. Parents, especially, are almost always left struggling to explain the basic facts about sex when faced with embarrassing questions.

This probably explains why many Asian families seldom talk about the subject with their children, let alone teach them.

Even when learning about the human body in school, particularly the reproductive system, only the essential facts are explained.

The sensitive details are discreetly left out, unless, of course, someone is brazen enough to pop the awkward question.

What a world away all this is fro Western societies like Britain, where sex education already from part of the national science curriculum for 11 – 16-year-olds in state schools.

As you can imagine, some schools are dishing out free condoms and distributing pamphlets all about sex to wide-eyed youngsters.

Try promoting condoms, or merely mentioning them, in schools of some Asian countries and you will have the entire population jumping on you.

Where are Good Samaritans?

Do you ever heard of “tourist police” in Penang? I think Penangites also not sure of the meaning of this term. For myself, I don’t think Penang has its own tourist police for overseas and abroad tourists.

I was out yesterday, Monday. In the post office in Komtar, a man came in to the counters and said, “Can you call the tourist police for me? Please ... please call the tourist police for me...”

The man inside the counter just stared at him. Like what has happened to him. The man continues to tell them the same thing, which is to call the tourist police for him.

You know what the man inside the counter said? He stumbled for a while and said, “No!” he continues to mumble a few words in his mouth, but I don’t know what he was mumbling. I was thinking that how shame the community is, can’t even help a man to call the police since there are no what-so-called tourist police in Penang. I felt ashamed for the man inside the counter. No police in Penang? And what-so 999 line for?

An Indian lady, a customer, asked him what had happened to him. The man said that he was robbed on the street and someone fetched him to the post office to ask for help. How kind the Indian lady, she offered him help and they walked out from the post office. I was following them too, to see what will happen next.

They came up to a policewoman who is in charged on that day. An unfamiliar face to us (Malay policewoman). They told her about what happened to the man, and the policewoman again, pointed here and there, shrugged to them, indicating that she did not know what to do too! At last, the officer had “confirmed” a direction and pointed to a way to ask the man to go to the direction to report to the cops.

It was too rude for her to do that to an overseas tourist who have been robbed and lost his passport. She just acted like nothing bad happened and like a girl who had not heard of people being robbed. She just ridiculously pointed a path for the man, as to ward him away from the spot, and that was the easiest way to save the trouble for herself too!

How sad the community is nowadays, can’t even help a man who was in trouble.

Can you imagine when something bad happens to you, and you come up to people for help, there is no one can help you, even the so-called police.

Where are the Good Samaritans?