Think about this... Think and consider... Think and think again... It helps in your relationship.
Here is a conversation of a daily routine, by a normal guy expressing his feeling. What this guy is not showing on the outside is what worth to think about.
Alex told his friend about what he thinks and how he feels of his girlfriend.
Alex : Hey, I do care about my girlfriend so much and I am not even limiting her to do her own stuffs and let alone her freedom. I don’t keep her with me all the time.
Friend: Wow! You are a considerate boyfriend! So, what do you think if she goes over her friends and have a little girly talk?
Alex : Oh, that. I like her be with her friends. I don’t ask her to not to go to her friends’ houses, as she has her own space, doesn’t she? Duh~
Friend: Yeah, you are right!
Wow, seems like Alex is so perfect towards his girlfriend. However, that is just a basis of what we can hear from a conversation and we cannot observe and notice how Alex actually feels.
Now, let us take a deeper look at this problem. Let’s seek deep down to his heart and soul. Did he really think that? Allowing his girlfriend to go over to her friends and he will not even care for the time she spends with her friends? Does he really feel like letting her to go to anywhere?
I don’t think so... Yeah, basically, what he thinks and speaks to his friend is that he cares. However, I have the feeling that Alex has a heart-ache.
Sometimes, we wish that our girlfriend / boyfriend / what-so-ever we may call to be with us. Every time. Just like we need to have them by our sides every time and every day. But, why did Alex say that he like his girlfriend to do that and he is not limiting her boundaries?
When we sometime speak of letting someone we love to do something, without us being by their side, actually we don’t really feel like doing it. Do you not think this is true? Is this our selfish side? We want them by our sides while they are doing their own stuff, even though that situation is totally unrelated to us. For instance, Alex’s girlfriend tells him that she needs to go over to her friend’s house to work on a few tasks. The next moment, Alex says, “Oh, you are going to there. Hmm... I will be with you to help you. Two heads is better than one!” Alex will have a feeling that when she is going over to her friend’s house, she will not be spending time with him, so, he takes the initiative to offer himself to be with her and to help her in her tasks.
We say that we care about them; we love them, but are these really what the reasons are? Or is this what we call ‘jealousy’? We just cannot stand that someone we love be with somebody else and we are not there with them to observe what they are doing, is this the reason we do that? Or we really care, and want to be with them to look after them every second, every minute?
This is a problem that occurs all the time and I don’t think many couples had worked it out before. This is not just happen to couples, it happens to everyone and anyone. We are capable of doing anything in this world.
Do you think this is fairly jealousy or that we really love them to be with us? We need time to be with them, to care about them, to love and nurture them, and have them by our sides. Or we need to let them have their little space and the end result is: both parties will be very happy.
He loves me, he thinks of me, he misses me, he knows me, he talks about me, and he will love me more when he has a little space. Aye.
Love is not expressed on the outside, it is in the heart.
It is good to have distance sometimes. We will know how to cherish the moment, we will know how to put someone we love in our heart, we will think of them when the right time has come, we will know what to do during this distance, and when we think more, we love more; when we love more, we cherish more; when we cherish more, we want the best for both of us; when we want the best for both of us, we know, in our hearts, we have each other and there is nothing more than everything and anything in the universe that can break the bond between us. This is what makes us strong, stronger, stronger, and stronger; and we are unbreakable.
