The Crucial Things

A scholarship requires what? You must speak fluent English and write smoothly! And attain a CGPA of 3.50!!! Ujst for scholarship! Be wise!

What A Promotion & Competition...

DiGi has 11 F&F numbers, with 36* cents/minute/call, and 1 cent/sms.

Maxis has 10 F&F numbers, with 8 cents/minute/call, and i cent/sms.

Wow! That is cool! What a competition and competitors!

I wonder what Celcom will have?

Raising Frankenkids

Is modern life leaving children overindulged, overstimulated and underparented?

This is an article taken and adapted from Lucy Cavendish.

My friend looked harassed. “I’ve been in Tokyo on business,” she explained. “I was only there for four days but Archie was so upset that I promised I’d buy him a PlayStation 3. Now I’ve got to find him some games.” Archie is six.

The next day I was at a Sunday lunch with friends and their children. It was all pretty relaxed, but halfway through lunch I realized something was missing. The children were almost completely silent.

Most of them playing PSPs (PlayStation Portables) or watching DVDs on portable players. As we talked, I noticed the host’s three-year-old under the table, playing on his own PSP.

When his mother asked him what he was doing, he pulled a face and told her to “shut up”.

We are breeding a generation Frankenkinder. Coined in the United States, the term refers to the children of the financially rich but time-poor.

This generation of parents is trying to buy its children off, doing backflips so as not to disappoint them.

But whatever parents give, it’s never enough and the children they are raising are turning into monsters.

It’s little wonder, then, that according to a Cambridge University report published recently, classroom discipline is deteriorating because parents are overindulging their children.

The study reveals that exposure to television, video games and computers is damaging children’s development, leaving them unprepared for full-time education. Some are unable to hold a knife and fork - or use the loo.

It is a dangerous time to be young. Children are getting fatter - the report found one child who had seven chocolate bars as his packed lunch - and lazier. They do less sport. They are no longer allowed to go to the park unsupervised.

To compensate, we are spending vast sums on toys and computer games, hobbies and leisure activities to keep our children occupied.

It’s called the Parent Pound and businesses are capitalizing on it, offering a never-ending range of courses from fencing to acting to rowing. Anything to keep them - and us - happy.

It’s a vicious cycle. We are so controlling, orchestrating every aspect of our children’s lives, trying to please, appease and protect. Yet, paradoxically, it is our children who are controlling us, as boundaries become dangerously blurred.

“We have bred a generation of children who are actually emotionally neglected,” says Harriet Griffey, a parenting writer and broadcaster.

“They may seem in the know, but have very few real age-appropriate experiences.”

And they are swamped with choice - parents allow them to choose what to eat, what to wear, who to see, what clubs to join.

We’ve forgotten how to say NO.

“It’s insanity,” says Griffey. “Parents are treating children as adults. Children need boundaries. They need constant love and attention, but when rules need to be enforced, that is the parent’s job.”

Griffey believes that this inability to say no is because modern-day parents have lost confidence when it comes to child-rearing. “Parents are afraid that if they put down some ground rules, their children won’t like them,” she says.

“Most parents seem to think that parenting is about being their children’s friends, so they lay down no rules at all.”

“Now children have come to realise that whining and cajoling and maybe resorting to being just plain rude will get them what they want.”

Take my friend Connie. She telephoned me the other day to tell me she was going to parenting classes as the behaviour of her two teenage boys had got out of control.

“I’ve never laid down the law,” she said, “and I always wanted to be a friend to them, but now I’ve turned into the kind of mother I don’t want to be. I shout at them all the time. I think I hate them.”

Wanting to be a friend with a child is a common problem.

“But children want to have a parent - or two - to rebel against,” says the self-help guru Nina Grunfeld. “They’ve got to hate you for a while. You’ve got to set boundaries that they can take umbrage with. Only then can they find themselves.”

Child psychotherapist Asha Phillips, author of Saying No: Why It’s Important for You and Your Child, believes the problem lies in the fact that modern parents don’t want children, but extensions of themselves. “No one wants to look like a mum.”

“Women want to look younger and children want to look older. Everyone is dressed in the same clothes. In the past babies were dressed as babies.”

“Now even three-month-olds are wearing designer clothes.”

It doesn’t stop at clothes. Toys are also an issue. The problem, according to Phillips, is that: “Toys tend to be acquired through extortion on the child’s behalf, rather than as a gift.”

“They have nagged doe an MP3 player, say, and then they trash it because they think everything is replaceable. They have no attachment to toys any more. Their PSP can never be an imaginary friend. They can’t cuddle it or take it for a picnic. They learn no element of reciprocity.”

But how much is to do with the parents and how much with modern life? For there is more than one element that goes towards making Frankenkinder.

Advertising, for instance, treats children as mini-adults. Children are sexualized at a much earlier age these days and many watch reality shows from the age of eight upwards, which means they are exposed to an adult world.

Jo Schofield, author of Nature’s Playground, thinks over-dependence on the television damages children emotionally as well as physically.

“Creativity is disappearing. Children expect to be entertained, so they don’t build up their imagination. Playing outside, where you don’t have toys, is a great way to latch on to children’s imagination.”

“If children are stuck in a room they don’t learn how to fall over and pick themselves up. Children don’t learn to judge risks.”

As parents we must learn to let them. And risk our children’s disapproval when we tell them that they can’t always have their own way.

You need a set of structures to help you be a good parent. I didn’t want to chastise the boys, as I felt I would lose their love, but they ended up treating me appallingly. Now I feel I must give them tough love. It is the only way.

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It's too much

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Do learn now,

or

there will be

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Too much knowledge

in Wiki.

I looked up,

I feel I just know a bit of the bit!

Too little that I Knew.

Incredibly Constructed!

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中国普通话 VS 马来西亚华语

马来西亚华人乃是晚清时广东省和闽南移民华侨的后代。当地华人对华教的坚持、文化的传承是不留余力的。我们堪称是海外华人中中文水准颇高的华人，但且看我们的普通话.............

中国人：今晚你有空吗？我没空！
马来西亚华人：今晚你得不得空？我不得空！

中国人：饼干受潮了…。
马来西亚华人：饼干'漏风'了…。

中国人：从上海去苏州要多少个小时？
马来西亚华人：从上海去苏州要几粒钟？

中国人：难道他不可以来吗？
马来西亚华人：你不给他不来啊？

中国人：周杰伦不喜欢穿内裤? ?/defanghtml_SPAN>
马来西亚华人：周杰伦不喜欢穿底裤。

中国人：我一向都是这样的
马来西亚人：我一路来都是这样的啦

中国人：我的手机掉进沟渠了。
马来西亚华人：我的手机掉进龙沟了。

中国人：这样你不是很不值得吗？
马来西亚华人：这样你'马'很不 '歹'？

中国人：你真是聪明！
马来西亚华人：你真是pan nai！(源自马来语pandai，聪明的意思)

中国人：你安静！
马来西亚华人：你diam diam！(源自马来语diam，安静的意思)

中国人：我要去银行取款。
马来西亚华人：我要去银行'按钱'。

中国人：为什么？
马来西亚华人：做么？

中国人：你很强~
马来西亚华人：你很够力~

中国人：明天也叫他一起去吧！
马来西亚华人：明天叫'埋'他一起去！

中国人：我很郁闷~~~
马来西亚华人：我很'显'（sien）啊~~~~（'显'比郁闷的境界更高）

中国人：你再说我就打你！
马来西亚华人：你再说我就hood你！（有点粗俗的）

中国人：你在说什么？
马来西亚华人：你在说sommok？

中国人：你不要令我丢脸~
马来西亚华人：你不要'下水'我~

中国人：真被你气到…。
马来西亚华人：被你炸到…。

中国人：你别乱来~
马来西亚华人：你表乱乱来~

中国人：你很无聊
马来西亚华人：你很废

中国人：XX你
马来西亚华人：Kanasai（意思是像大便一样，骂人的话）

中国人：迫切
马来西亚华人：bek chek

中国人：我们结婚吧！
马来西亚华人：我们结'分'吧！（'婚'字受粤语影响，所以音不标准）

中国人：今天的天气很热~
马来西亚华人：今天的天气热到。。。。。。。。。。。。。。~~~~~~~（'到'字要拉长，然后没有下文了）

中国人：哇!
马来西亚华人：哇捞weh!!!!

中国人：我受不了他！
马来西亚华人：我behtahan他！

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Some Hearts

I've never been the kind
that you'd call lucky
Always stumbling' around in circles
But I must have stumbled into something
Look at me
Am I really alone with you
I wake up feeling like my
life's worth living
Can't recall when I last felt that way
Guess it must be all this
love you're giving
Never knew never knew it could be like this
But I guess

Some hearts
They just get all the right breaks
Some hearts have the stars on their side
Some hearts,
They just have it so easy
Some hearts just get lucky sometimes
Some hearts just get lucky, lucky sometimes

Beautiful

I made a vow yesterday. I promised my brother, Yang one thing. I was sorry for him and myself because I did not work hard all this while.

Our dream is big.

From now onwards, I promise my brother that I will work hard for these few months; work hard for the final examination and the public examination, STPM too. I already got up.

I will perform my best and I will be the crème de la crème!

This is no kidding. I promised him and I will fulfill and accomplish it!

I want to further my studies abroad; I do not want to stay in Malaysia anymore. I will do this. I do not want to regret anymore.

Yesterday night, I was awoken. I did not sleep anymore. Some words got me thinking. It is not the time for me to rest and relax anymore.

This is the only chance I work my best of the best and fly overseas.

For the first time, I felt the love and passion rushing to my heart! I knew what I want very clearly. I knew what I want! I will walk and die for it! I do not want local university, I want a scholarship and to stay in The United States and get a green card and stay there as a citizen! This is my American Dream.

I promised my brother and myself that we will work hard together until we win all these!

We have the same dream and we are going to pursue it. We are going to do whatever to go for it and to get a title of Psychologist.

We are not going to let that go!

At night, I was listening to mix.fm while I was pulling my socks and slogging my way to revision and home works. The song “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilera was playing and this is my brother’s favorite song that I sent him.

At that very moment, deep in my heart, I did not feel hollow and empty anymore. I felt there was a fire inside me. The flame was burning hot and it was my passion inside that was burning.

I know I had to do something that moment. Aye. I have to work thousand times harder to go for my dream.

I am going The United States and I am going to be the world’s prestigious psychologist (my brother too!) and a criminal profiler. I will not let myself and my brother down!

This is me, the real me! I have awoken. I do not sleep in slumber anymore.

I love you forever Yang. This is the sound you hear from me talking. For brothers: Macus Ong and Ong Ch’n Yang.

Is This Too 'Hilarious' For You? (Numa Numa Eww!!!)

用心過好每一天．相信每天都是美好的一天

記住 anger ( 發怒 ) 與 danger ( 危險) 只差一個字
別看少這一個字
它會影響我們這份職業、甚至人際關係
正所謂「禍從口出…」
專家講:
「人，面對外人時，
總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和，
但面對自己最親近的家人，
卻往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭，
甚至出言相傷。」
正如你永遠只對你最愛、最親的人生氣
你會對住你上司、老板生氣嗎 ?
如果形容人類是一種
「出門高E.Q ，回家低E.Q 」的動物，
我想一點兒也不誇張，
多拿出一點耐心與包容給家人吧！
否則您自己也不會快樂，不是嗎？


曾在報上看過
英文中的stressed （壓力），與 desserts （甜點）兩字，
有很微妙的相關。是什麼相關呢？
仔細一瞧，好像沒什麼關係嘛！
可是，再看一下，咦，
stressed 這個字從後面倒過來拼寫，不就是 desserts 嗎？
所以，「Stressed is just desserts if you can reverse. 」
（壓力就是甜點，只要你能逆向觀看。）
哈，這真是有趣的妙論呀！
人生之中，有許多「壓力、挫折」，
但只要轉個念、換個角度看，
它也就是我們生命中的「甜點」呀！
此外，也有人說：
「人生就像一碗飯，一半是甜的，一半是苦的，
你不知道會先吃到哪一邊，但終究必須把飯吃完。」
是呀，生命有甜、有苦、有酸、也有辣；
但都必須去經歷它、走過它呀！
有一個小學老師在偏遠的鄉里教書，
這天，他來到自己班上的教室，
問班上的小朋友：「你們大家有沒有討厭的人啊」
小朋友們想了想，有的未作聲，有的則猛力地點點頭。
老師接著便發給每人一個袋子，說：
「我們來玩一個遊戲。現在大家想想看，過去這一 週，
曾有那些人得罪過你他到底做了怎麼樣可惡的事想到後，
就利用放學時間到河邊去找一塊石頭，
把他的名字給用小紙條貼在石頭上如果他實在很過份，
你就找一塊大一點的石頭，如果他的錯是小錯，
你就找一塊小一點的石頭。
每天把戰利品用袋子裝到學校來給老師看哦！」
學生們感到非常有趣且新鮮，
放學後，每個人都搶著到河邊去找石頭。
第二天一早，
大家都把裝著從河邊撿來的鵝卵石的袋子帶到學校來，
興高采烈地討論著。
一天過去了，兩天過去了，三天過去了….. ，
有的人的袋子越裝越大，幾乎成了負擔。
終於，
有人提出了抗議「老師，好累喔」老師笑了笑沒說話，
立刻又有人接著喊：
「對啊每天背著這些石頭來上課， 好累喔 」
這時，老師終於開口了，
她笑著說：「那就放下這些代表著別人過犯的石頭吧」
孩子們有些訝異，
老師又接著講：
「學習寬恕別人的過犯 ，
不要把它當寶一樣的記在心上，扛在肩上，
時間久了，任誰也受不了…」
這個星期，這班的同學上到了人生中極寶貴的一課。
袋裡裝入越多、越大的「石頭」，
心中存留越多、越深的仇恨，
所造成的負擔就越重。
假如你有寫上我名字的石頭
你應當知道該怎樣做了吧！
我很喜歡一句名諺：
「寬恕人的過失，便是自己的榮耀。」
懂得「放下」，何等自在。
請不吝分享，或許今天正有人需要它！
相愛容易相處難，婚姻與戀愛最大的不同，
就是「戀愛看的是對方的優點」，
而「婚姻卻是要包容對方的缺點」。
Made with ... 緣份是找到包容你的人
用心過好每一天．相信每天都是美好的一天 ；
好運會降臨在樂觀開朗的人身上!

R.T. is Not That!

What You Know?

Chemically Motivated!

This is what our Chemistry teacher gave us, a motivation speech... short and sweet.

Thankful For

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT BECAUSE IT MEANS WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH.
FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.
FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS I CAN HEAR.
FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.
FOR THE PARKING SPOT I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.
FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT. FOR THE HUSBAND WHO IS ON THE SOFA BEING A COUCH POTATO, BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.
FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE.
FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING, WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING, AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME.
FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

FOR THE TAXES I PAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM EMPLOYED.
FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.
FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM WARM.
FOR THE TEENAGER WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME, NOT ON THE STREETS.
FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S EGGS N BACON TONIGHT, BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME, AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

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Why Some Men Rape?

Many people have said that even grandmothers and small babies have been raped, yet they are not sexily dressed and the women’s clothes should not be a factor in the rising number of rape cases in the country.

Don’t these people know that rapists rape women of their fantasies? And under all the layers of covering, they know that there is still a woman, the “sexy” woman of their fantasies.

These rapists are normal human beings; they do everything that other men do. But deep inside them there is resentment. And with continued exposure to films, TV programmes, magazines and even newspaper that many people consider to be revealing, sooner or later, the rapists in them emerge.

Yes, believe it or not, sports too encourage such men to dwell on their weird fantasies especially when they see young women and under-aged girls wearing skimpy clothes or swimsuits live on TV.

The quest to win gold medals in sporting events have even forced pious Muslim women in Malaysia especially to discard their religious values on aurat, and the sports and other political authorities too don’t seem to mind.

Olympic gold medals, or even the lowly ranked South-East Asian Games or SEA Games bronze medals are enough temptation for these women to push aside religious values.

And these potential rapists are everywhere. They may be your close friends, relatives or husband, but they are not rapists yet if they do not have the victims.

And the victims are not those women they often see in the media wearing skimpy clothes because these women are often in the company of other women and men. And they do not parade their skimpy clothes in the secluded areas, but in public places.

However, there are some women and girls who go about on their own, riding motorcycles in the woods, walk in a deserted lane to go to college and go to the deserted car parks at night with their equally young boyfriend because they had seen movies showing young couples doing the same thing.

The girl thinks just because her young boyfriend is there, she is also safe. But doesn’t she realise that if they are confronted by several men who are older and stronger than the boy, she will become a victim?

This is adapted from an article in The Star by a writer from Cheras, Selangor.

So far, do you agree with her saying?

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